Four things that hurt children’s “self-esteem”
As the saying goes, good boys are exaggerated, not scolded.
The author once heard such a story: One afternoon, a primary school student under ten years old played alone in a woods after school.
It was dark, and before the timid child came out of the woods, he was afraid of being attacked by a beast, and climbed into a big tree to hide.
When the father saw the child before he came home late, he went looking for the child’s way home from school. In a wood, by the faint starlight of the sky, the father vaguely saw his son hiding on the branch of a large tree.
The father did not immediately call his son down, but pretended not to see it, whistled and walked not far from the tree where his son was hiding.
When the son heard his father’s whistle as if he had met a savior, he immediately slipped down the tree and asked, “Dad, how do you know that I’m in this wood?”
“I was walking alone. I didn’t want to meet you and play on the tree.”
“It is said that this child grew up in an officer school and graduated and became a brave general in combat.
People often say that trees are afraid of hurting roots, and people are afraid of sadness.
Self-esteem and self-confidence are the spiritual pillars of children’s growth, the cornerstones of children’s goodness, and the internal motivation for self-development.
Everyone has self-esteem, don’t think that children are small, you can disrespect them.
Children’s self-esteem and self-confidence need parents and teachers to protect and respect.
If the educator intentionally or unintentionally hurts the child’s self-esteem and self-confidence, the child’s mind will be hit and destroyed, and the motivation and spiritual support for the development of good will be lost.
No matter what circumstances hurt or discredit children’s self-esteem and self-confidence, they are all foolish behaviors that violate the laws of education.
In real life, it is common to not pay attention to protecting children’s self-esteem, self-confidence, and disrespect for children’s privacy.
Some children say that you are so stupid if they do n’t do a good job; usually they are a little timid, they say you are really a coward; if their children have poor test scores, they say that you are so useless; sometimes their children are youngMistakes, blaming you for not being so angry.
Some parents and teachers are not pleasing to their children, and they always blame and complain, and some even swear and abuse.
If this goes on, over time, a good kid will lose his due ambition and self-esteem in the midst of accusations and complaints, which will eventually make it difficult for him to succeed.
Simple and rude, not talking about methods, will only hurt children’s self-esteem.
A qualified parent and teacher should use love to protect the child’s self-esteem and self-confidence, educate the child to have love, patience and perseverance, insist on more praise and encouragement, and less blaming and complaining.The enthusiasm, so that they continue to overcome their shortcomings, gradually improve themselves, and become a high-quality talent useful to society.
What are the characteristics of children’s self-esteem when parents respect their children?
Scientists have found that: 1. Children with high self-esteem are more active and good at expressing their thoughts.
Second, they are good at building good relationships with others. In conversations with others, they are willing to be dominant and unwilling to be listeners.
They are always ready to express their opinions and opinions, and are not troubled by others’ picks.
Third, they are often interested in world issues.
Fourth, they are convinced of their abilities and confident that they can do whatever they want.
After research, scientists have found that children’s high self-esteem comes from their true care and respect for their parents. First, parents with high self-esteem are not only good at helping children build interests and hobbies, but also good at caring and understanding most of their children.Friends, can listen to the children’s opinions patiently, and can timely meet the children’s legitimate needs.
Secondly, these parents have stricter requirements on their children than ordinary parents.
They demand that the children behave properly and observe discipline.
They use education instead of punishment to correct their children’s wrongdoing.
Furthermore, in the family life of these children, parents always use a kind and generous method to guide their children to follow the rules of family life.
When children disagree with their parents, they are always taken seriously.
The research results of scientists have given us new enlightenment: children have a high degree of self-esteem, which is beneficial to their growth; fostering children’s self-esteem, parental guidance plays an important role.
Do n’t hurt the child ‘s self-esteem. A fifth-grade student was once reprimanded by the teacher for poor grades in math tests and fined three times.
He is usually introverted, and has become more depressed since then. He has an inexplicable sense of fear when he takes a math class.
Later, he developed to tremble as soon as he walked towards the school. He often felt dizzy in class and always heard the teacher’s harsh rebuke in his ears.
In the end, parents had to take him out of school.
This is an example of the serious consequences of being “psychologically abused,” and of course very rare.However, in real life, parents are angry at their children, teachers are at their students, and they are open-minded, and mean words. What kind of “dumb”, “dumb”, “not prosperous”, and inadvertently chewing at children.”Psychological abuse” is not uncommon.
Psychological abuse can be roughly divided into these categories: First, the compulsive type does not consider the needs of students (children) at all, forcing them to act according to the will of the teacher or parents, and even the children’s defense, anger, and resistance are deprived.
These children are often timid and afraid of things, shrinking in case of problems, and being generally independent, which will make it difficult to adapt to complex social life.
Second, the indifferent type is indifferent to children’s needs, and generally has closeness and compassion.
To their faults is not to help education, to guide patiently, or to take a cold attitude.
These children are so distressed and lonely.
Third, the degrading type does not recognize the child’s slight progress, often hurts their self-esteem, degrades their academic performance, but does not let go of any fault.
As a result, children feel sad, lack self-confidence, and have no opinion.
Fourth, when the children make mistakes, they do not evaluate them as a whole, help them find the reason, and encourage them to overcome difficulties.
It is to wipe out everything in the past, to criticize and scold, and to sprinkle salt on the injured heart of children. Such children are often slumped and do not see hope.
“Psychological abuse” is not advisable.
As parents and school teachers, we must first understand the dangers of children’s “psychological abuse” and recognize that children’s mental health is an important part of “health”.
Strengthen personality cultivation, slowly get rid of this bad problem of mental abuse, impress children with patience and emotions, and try to convince people with emotions.
Give children a harmonious and relaxed learning and living environment, so that children can really grow up healthy.